🇬🇧 What is a plus size model?

What is a plus size model?

I'm Nycka Nunes, digital and cultural nomad, and I work as a visual artist, fine art photographer and stylist, in addition to creating content on several platforms (this blog and social networks. Links in the sidebar). I have been working in the fashion industry since childhood.

In this text I will talk specifically about plus size models. Plus size is NOT necessarily a fat person. For example, I've always been skinny and my hips measure 102 cm. If I were a model, with that hip measurement I would be a plus size model. Plus size is a person that we can more clearly identify the physical type, if we compare two people with the same hip measurement, for example. Just look at the person and we have a clear notion of the physical type, which is almost always confirmed when we take their measurements. Among traditional models it is more difficult to identify this.

A lot of people see Gisele Bündchen as curvy, for example, but if you compare her waist-hip line with mine, she's straight as a ruler. As when photographing she usually creates curves with her body, she creates this impression of being curvy. Some styling tricks can also give the impression that her body has a different shape.

And here comes the reason why I am very opposed to the use of plus size models on catwalks and in photographs and videos from online stores. Catwalk is for showing the clothes. With all the models having similar bodies it's easy to identify which body types each outfit looks good on. With the presentation of different body types, it is easy to see if the clothes fit well on that person, but it is difficult to identify whether the same clothes would fit well on someone with a different body type or even on a person with the same body type and a different measure of bust, for example (bust is not evaluated to identify physical type. I have already explained this in more detail in another text).

Brands that want to show that they dress different body types should do so through advertising and marketing campaigns, including working with content creators and excluding the runway. To be a model without having the standard measurements of a runway model, there is already a commercial model career, which accepts people of different physical types and ages.

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🇬🇧 About friendships

This is a text about friendships.

I'm Nycka Nunes, digital and cultural nomad, and I work as a visual artist, fine art photographer and stylist. In recent years I have experienced an intense healing process from emotional traumas. I believe that personal style is intertwined with lifestyle and personal development, so in this blog I share personal reflections and a little about my lifestyle.

• Not everyone will like you the way you are. Friends value and respect us for exactly who we are and support our growth without hurting or forcing us. It's not about pretending we're perfect and don't need to improve, but about respecting our time and, when we decide to improve, they're there cheering for our victory and supporting as much as possible. And when we fall, we can count on our friends' shoulders to cry on, and their support to pick us up and move on.
• Whoever wants good friends must be a good friend. And knowing when to cut relationships if there is no reciprocity. Friendship is a two-way street.
• Friendship requires emotional connection. It's not about who likes to go to parties with you, or listen to the same kind of music you like, or spend a lot of time together. If there is no emotional connection, it is not friendship, they are acquaintances with common interests.
• Friends don't have to solve our problems. But if they disappear or turn their backs on us when we are going through difficulties, they are not true friends. Showing up after the storm has passed saying they were rooting for us is not support. Any support that comes along with some form of disrespect is also an attitude that excludes the person from the friend classification.

I believe these points also apply to romantic relationships.

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Nycka

🇬🇧 How to protect dogs and cats from the cold

How to protect dogs and cats from the cold?

I'm Nycka Nunes, digital and cultural nomad, and I work as a visual artist, fine art photographer and stylist. I believe that personal style is intertwined with lifestyle and personal development, so in this blog I share personal reflections and a little about my lifestyle.

I recommend that you follow my profiles on social networks, especially Instagram, where I publish a lot of different content than what I publish on other social networks.

My cat Thor has three tips to share on how to keep cats warm in the winter. His tips are:

• Sleep with your pet human. That way you always stay warm.
• If you're cold, pester your human until he gets the message. Think of something he would be able to understand, because most humans are not fluent in Meownese. I'm one lucky cat and my human picked up the basics of our language pretty quickly.
• If you have siblings (other cats or dogs), curl up with them when the humans aren't home or if your human won't allow you to sleep with him. My human always recommends having two or more cats because she knows that sleeping together is every cat's #1 preference.

Other options (my suggestions, not Thor’s) are:

• Find out at pet stores in your area about options available to protect cats. Enclosed beds such as tents, heated mats, blankets appropriate for the size of cats, etc. Pet stores with an online store that ship to where you live are also a good option. If any brand of this type of product or pet shop wants to sponsor posts for Thor to test the products, contact me.
• Use a heater or fireplace in the room, taking care not to burn animals or children. I made it, and it makes humans and four-legged puppies happy and warm. Of course, this couldn't be a tip from Thor because a cat wouldn't know how to explain to a human that he has to provide these resources. This suggestion makes more sense where there is no heating in every house, as in Brazil.

For dogs, the tips are basically the same, but pay attention to the breed profile, if your dogs are purebred, because some like the cold and feel comfortable in low temperatures. For these, it is important to protect them from the heat. For them, tolerable heat may be a lower temperature than for other dogs with no affinity for cold.

Nycka, with assistance from Thor

🇬🇧 My relationship with my body

This is a text about my relationship with my body.

I'm Nycka Nunes, digital and cultural nomad and I work as a visual artist, fine art photographer and stylist. As a stylist, I believe that personal style is linked to self-knowledge, personality and lifestyle, and therefore it is impossible to label a personal style. Also, if someone imitates someone else's appearance it goes against the grain of developing a strong personal style.

I've always been skinny. To the point that, at a certain point, I took medicine to whet my appetite. At that time I ate little because the food at my maternal grandmother's house, where I lived, was ugly and bad. Fortunately, at the other grandmother's house, the food was always very tasty.

Nowadays I try to eat well, without exaggerating, and I've learned to understand many of my body's needs.

I am 1.75 m tall. And since I was a teenager I have wide hips, and small breasts. And my body type today is hourglass, because the measurement for body type is shoulders, not breasts. I was never bothered by my breasts or hips. In my early teens it was difficult to find a bikini to buy because most stores in my hometown only sold the two pieces in the same size and I wore a small top and medium panties. Fortunately, there was a shop that made bespoke bikinis. And in adult life the difference ceased to exist.

Because I was bullied by members of my maternal family, having zero privacy, and other intolerable attitudes, I spent my teens thinking I was ugly. When a school friend said that some boy wanted to meet me, I always thought it could only be a joke. I only went to date after leaving my hometown. Before, I didn't think my body was ugly, and I didn't feel pretty either. I understand now that it was mostly because my clothes weren't clothes I liked and I also hated my long hair. The appearance imposed by my family did not represent who I was.

In adult life I continued to be skinny most of the time. Until 2012 my weight was always around 58 kilos. By wearing clothes that reflected my personality and experiencing positive reinforcement around my appearance, I gained self-confidence.

From 2012 until the pandemic, my weight fluctuated a lot - for more and for less - while I struggled against the effects of an extremely traumatic situation I experienced, which was the first step for me to cut ties with my maternal family and with all the people who tried to force me to talk to those people.

During the pandemic, because I stayed at home and greatly reduced my level of physical activity, I gained more than twenty kilos in the first year of the pandemic. Then I lost almost all of the extra weight. This week I'm 64 kilos. My body is more “feminine” than when I weighed 58kg. At 58kg I could easily have an androgynous image. At 64kg my breasts are bigger. Not much, but enough that I couldn't be mistaken for a man. I am happy with my current body. And I like the androgynous body of before.

For a long time I didn't like my droopy eyes. In recent years I have made peace with them. My very thin and long fingers were also a source of discomfort. When I was a teenager, I kept my nails long, because I like red nail polish or dark colours, and my nails, when short, almost disappear due to the proportion with the length of the fingers. I also made peace with that. The non-acceptance of these body parts was an effect of the bullying suffered. When the voice of my abusive relatives died in my head, I came to see myself as beautiful in every detail.

The death of that negative voice was a long process that caused me a lot of pain. In the last stage, it destroyed my physical health, and caused impacts on my appearance, such as weight changes. Right now, the only thing I need to change is my teeth, because it's the only part of my body that reflects the impact of this internal struggle I've overcome.

How are limiting beliefs, inherited from others who don't take care of their own mental health, or self-imposed, affecting you and distancing you from taking better care of yourself? Follow my social media profiles for more content that can inspire you to rebuild yourself and exalt your authenticity.

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🇬🇧 8 reasons for you to get to know other religions

This is a text with 8 reasons for you to get to know other religions besides the ones your family practices.

I'm Nycka Nunes, digital and cultural nomad and I work as a visual artist, fine art photographer and stylist. As a stylist, I believe that personal style is linked to self-knowledge, personality and lifestyle, and therefore it is impossible to label a personal style and if someone imitates the appearance of another person, this goes against the grain of developing a strong personal style.

1. A still widespread way of educating children is through reward and punishment. For everything there is a right option and all others are wrong. Like a multiple-choice test. (If you suffer from anxiety, a clue to the cause is here.) But life is not a multiple-choice test. So, for you to make smart choices, you need to evaluate different possibilities and take a critical look at them. Thus, it is important to know different religions to discover which path best suits your quest for personal development at the moment. And this option can change along the journey.
2. You will see that all religions have characteristics in common and it will be very useful for you to respect those who follow a different religion, and also those who do not follow any religion, as one of the common characteristics between religions is respect for individuality.
3. You will realise that the purpose of religions is not for you to judge who is different, but to expose yourself to what is different and respect it in order to become a better human being.
4. You will realise that all religions have different characteristics too, and the choice for a religion, when made consciously, is based precisely on these different characteristics. Each person seeks a religion aligned with their personal values. It makes no sense, for example, for a homosexual person to choose a religion that criticises homosexuals.
5. Based on what I've read of Joseph Campbell's books, I realise that today's religions are generally not judgmental or condemning. Those who condemn are religious people who have a stance of fanaticism. Campbell is an author that I highly recommend for anyone who wants to know the world's religions in a broad way to begin the process of consciously choosing a path of personal development.
6. I once read that when the wise point to the moon, the fool looks at the finger. This explains the attitude of people who, instead of using religion to become better people, use it as a crutch to judge who acts differently from how they interpret religion.
7. No religion conveys its teachings literally. Perhaps the form of transmission of teachings of another religion is easier for you to understand than the form of the religions you know today. Just like at school, sometimes we don't quite understand content the way a certain teacher explains it, but with another teacher who explains it differently, the same content seems much easier!
8. To be a fanatic is to be a bore. And not every religion is theistic.

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 Those who had traumatic experiences in childhood do not usually have hobbies

Psychologists say that those who had traumatic experiences in childhood do not usually have hobbies. This text is about my childhood and how I dealt with the limitations that were imposed on me.

I'm Nycka Nunes, digital and cultural nomad, and I work as a visual artist, fine art photographer and stylist, in addition to creating content on this blog and on social media. I graduated in advertising.

I started working at 5 years old. I lived with my maternal grandmother for most of my childhood and adolescence.

When I was very young I studied ballet, piano and flute. I lived opposite the music conservatory in my hometown at the time. I've been passionate about piano ever since, but even though they enrolled me in the course, my family never encouraged me and I didn't have a piano to practice with. And I was frustrated with the lack of evolution between one class and another. The other courses I don't even remember wanting. I still reject the flute. I now know that narcissists - and emotionally immature people - tend to do things to impress others. Maybe that's why they enrolled me in these courses and others. To impress others, keep up with the Joneses.

I also liked to draw and I wanted to learn to paint, and I wasn't given any encouragement to do so. To the point where I got to draw only in therapy sessions, in childhood. I only went back to drawing in the first year of college for advertising. And, surprisingly to me, I was drawing well.

Notice that what was important to me, what brought me satisfaction and joy, was not encouraged. In some cases it was even prohibited. And that went beyond art. I remember once asking for a Barbie as a gift and my mother saying that I was no longer a child to play with dolls. I was a child. I started playing with boys, with He-Man and Thundercats dolls. I started playing football. And I continued to allow myself to be a child, even though I had to work and was treated like an adult by my mother and her family.

In the store, they put me in charge of organising the products in stock, hidden from customers. I thought it was boring, I did what had to be done quickly and went to the counter to try to serve customers. Several did not accept my help. I was small, and just as capable of serving them as the adult saleswomen. I knew the names and prices of everything, I knew where each product was, and I even knew better than the others what was in stock because most of the time I was in stock.

In childhood, I found in literature an escape from the annoyance and disrespect I experienced in living with my maternal family.

Unfortunately, for a large part of Brazilian society in inland cities, family is something above good and evil. Even as an adult, when I voiced criticism of abuse committed by family members, several people criticised me. I also got a lot of support when I talked about these bad experiences on social media.

The memories I have of living with my father's family are all good. After my parents' divorce, I started to see my father a lot less, but when he was there he was 100% there, always supporting me, praising me. My paternal grandmother used to talk to me a lot. My uncles also treated me very well, and respected my weird behaviour, for example, being isolated at Christmas parties when there were people I didn't know.

This positive interaction with my paternal family and the literature that took me to different realities than the one I lived with my maternal grandmother were essential for me to deal with the authoritarianism of my maternal grandmother and the cruelty of my mother and my aunts, who always they humiliated me, treated me badly, repeated countless times that I was ugly, stupid, useless, and no matter how good my grades at school or my behaviour were, nothing was good enough.

My self-esteem was low and remained so until I was in my thirties, because I placed too much importance on being loved by my mother's family. Today, if someone doesn't like me, I move on with my life, I've achieved great emotional autonomy. Anyone who doesn't value my qualities doesn't deserve my affection.

As I traveled to my father's farm on the weekends, and there I was always treated well, I really like to travel. I also like to practice individual physical activities (cycling, walking the dog, etc). And to watch football matches, but I usually only watch Palmeiras matches. Sometimes I watch games of some European teams too.

I look for joy and satisfaction in everything I do, and I've learned to be intolerant of certain attitudes. Because satisfaction was something forbidden to me in almost all of my childhood and adolescence. And I don't want to be satisfied only on weekends. That's why I don't limit my satisfaction to hobbies. I do not accept that only they bring me joy and relaxation.

And you, how do you deal with the bad experiences you had in childhood?

Nycka Nunes

🇬🇧 Can looks be deceiving?

Have you ever heard that looks can be deceiving? Could they be deceiving?

I'm Nycka, I work as a stylist, visual artist and fine art photographer. As a stylist, I was a world pioneer in working with personal image as a non-verbal communication tool.

Once, during the cold period in Curitiba, I went to work looking very androgynous. I'm tall, thin, I have short hair and my appearance already contributes a lot to the androgynous aspect, which I eventually reinforce in clothing.

After work I stopped by the supermarket before heading home. And, on the way, as I was on foot (I was working in a mall close to home), while waiting for the traffic light to turn green for pedestrians, a woman with a little girl of about 5 or 6 years old stopped beside me. The girl asked her mother, looking at me: “is it a boy or a girl?”. The mother got mad at the child, and as soon as the traffic light turned green she ran out and scolded the girl.

I don't believe that clothes have a gender. I often wear men's cut pants because they are more comfortable. I have zero interest in changing genders. I don't believe that my biological gender defines my personality, I don't feel obliged to behave stereotyped as feminine all the time. I believe that everyone has characteristics that are stereotyped as masculine and other characteristics that are stereotyped as feminine, regardless of gender. Certainly Brazilian culture, and possibly others around the world, reinforce(s) stereotypes. It is up to each person, through the process of self-knowledge, to decide whether to accept fitting into stereotypes or not. I have chosen, since I started buying my own clothes, not to dress to satisfy others. I have used my appearance as a tool for non-verbal communication and self-expression since I was eighteen years old. Since I didn't go through the phase of dressing like my friends and people my age when I was a teenager and I was already working in fashion, it was easy to follow that path. So it would be easy and natural for me to respond to that little girl if her mother hadn't taken her far away. I see no mistake, offence or shame in asking what she asked. I see more error in keeping the child in a universe of repression, where wanting to understand the other is treated as a mistake, where there is a war between a single right option and all the others are seen as wrong.

Certainly me and that mother live in different universes. That's why she ran away from me and the uncomfortable situation (for her) of allowing her daughter to experience realities different from those she was used to. And my appearance can be deceiving to the point of doubting whether I am a “boy or a girl”, but it is not deceiving in terms of the fact that I live in a different universe from people who believe that girls should dress with certain options and boys are limited to other options.

I don't work with children's personal image. Not even child celebrities. I believe that to develop a personal style it is necessary to have a dose of self-knowledge that children do not have, because they live in a relationship of relative submission to their parents' beliefs and values, without autonomy to express their individuality in most cases. Many adults also do not have enough autonomy and self-awareness for this.

I'm an artist, and very conventional and conservative behaviour is not inspiring at all. I develop personal styles that are much less daring than mine, but excessive fears, limitations and a conservative mindset do not work within my work. The client must have a dose of openness to do something different from what (s)he has been doing.

If you want to develop a unique personal style, follow the instructions on the “Services available” page. My other services are available to a wider range of profiles.

Nycka

🇬🇧 The “big yorkshire”

Yesterday when I went out for dinner I met a couple with a black dog that reminded me of Hercules, my last dog, but it had a narrower body and a longer snout.

Since I like dogs, I asked if it was a Lhasa Apso, knowing it wasn't, but I couldn't mentally identify the dog's breed, if it had one. She said it was a "big yorkshire". I explained that I found him similar to mine, which was a Lhasa, and also to the skye terrier breed, which is from the same group as the Yorkshire (Terrier), but bigger, and is a breed that I always wanted to have and in Brazil I never found a breeder. When she said yorkshire luckily she couldn't see my face as I was playing with the dog, because there is no such thing as an all black yorkshire and it was too big to be that breed (my facial expression would give away what I thought). Maybe she bought it like a yorkshire, without researching the breed standard (there are breeders who only care about the money, not respecting the breed standards they breed). Maybe she said it was a yorkshire because it's a popular breed, like the lhasa apso, and she thought I was the uninformed one and I wouldn't know the breed of dog.

I know the main standards of a fair amount of dog breeds pretty well because it's a subject I've always enjoyed studying. As well as themes related to fashion, art and other themes that arouse my interest since childhood and many others that I became interested in later on. And I think it's worth paying for purebred dogs and cats when they come from serious breeders who respect the breed's standards.

I'm Nycka. I work as a stylist, visual artist and fine art photographer. In this blog I talk about lifestyle, as it is something related to my three professional activities. I write as little as possible about work, because those who want my work know that they need and value my talent and/or my experience. Read my LinkedIn profile to learn about my experience and background. For professional personal style guidance and support, whether for special events or to develop a strong and elegant personal style, schedule an appointment following the instructions on the “Services available” page. For the other services, the hiring instructions are also there. It will be a pleasure to photograph your dog, with or without breed, and create an art that immortalises its beauty.

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🇬🇧 5 positive and 5 negative characteristics of people

Are you that kind of person who likes everyone? Is it the one who hates anyone who is different from you or has different values? Or some type that is neither of those extremes? This is a text about 5 characteristics that I consider positive and 5 negative characteristics of people.

I'm Nycka, I work as a stylist, visual artist and fine art photographer. As a stylist, I consider personal image as a non-verbal communication tool, and developing a strong personal style is part of a process of self-knowledge and exposure to new possibilities. I am an artist even when working as a stylist, as non-verbal communication is also part of visual arts and fine art photography. As a stylist, I see each client as a work of art, where the communication intentions are not mine, but theirs, as well as in my works of art and photographs made to order.

I believe that we can only know ourselves by living different experiences, meeting different people and discovering what we like and what we don't.

What behavioural characteristics do I see as negative in people?

1. People who use religion to judge others. Religion is a personal development tool. You choose your religion and live by what it teaches. From the moment you want everyone to live according to your religion (which is really just your INTERPRETATION of religion), you demonstrate that you are an ignorant fanatic and disrespect the individuality of others. This also applies to countries that use religion to treat citizens disrespectfully, such as those that criminalise abortion; those who only accept monogamous marriages (disrespecting the individual choices of those who consciously chose polyamory or follow religions that allow multiple relationships); Islamic regimes that curtail women's rights; between others. Each person follows the religion that best suits their personal values ​​and forcing an entire country to live according to the values ​​of a single religion, or the interpretation of that religion by some is disrespectful.
2. People who never left the city where they were born to live outside and criticise immigrants. And sometimes they even criticise native people who don't like the city or criticise some characteristics of the place (or the people of the place).
3. People who think that there are “masculine” and “feminine” behaviours (or jobs, and so many other things), and do not understand the stereotypes, treating human beings like products on the supermarket shelf, where a carton of milk will always have milk in its inside. Not even the products are that homogeneous! Even milk, a commodity, has several different types in the supermarket, which require reading the label to know the qualities of each one.
4. Racist people, including those who think that because they are a certain race or skin colour everyone hates them (so they hate everyone whose skin colour they deem to be the oppressive skin colour, as if such a thing exists). I try to treat people with respect regardless of their skin colour, but if the person generalises and thinks everyone is racist, I lose respect. I understand the impact of bullying, prejudice, but I don't like racism or the victim side of racism.
5. Incompetent professionals. Especially those who do not understand a subject or do not have important skills for their profession and neither assume ignorance nor seek to learn or develop their skills. Along with those who use religion as a crutch, they are among the most intolerable.

In short, I don't like people who don't respect individuality and those who don't take their profession seriously.

Let's go to the positive features:

1. People who seek personal development and emotional maturity.
2. People who seek new experiences and self-knowledge.
3. People who love their work and seek to be above average.
4. People capable of dialoguing with those who think differently without trying to change the other's opinion. Dialogue with people like this is to get to know and understand different points of view and realities. It's not about who is right or wrong.
5. People who respect and treat dogs and cats well. Other animals too, but mostly dogs and cats.

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🇬🇧 About grief

This is a text about grief. Grief doesn't exist just for someone's death. It is a process that can happen in many different situations.

I'm Nycka, I'm a stylist, visual artist and photographer. In this blog and in my profiles on social networks, I talk about different subjects, many of them not related to my work. On social networks, I publish notices about posts here on the blog and also exclusive content.

On Spotify I have a playlist only with songs to deal with grief, and I've been adding new songs to this playlist and the many others I have on that platform as I remember songs I've known for a long time and also as I discover new ones.

In addition to death, in what situations can we experience grief?

Some situations that I notice are:

End of a friendship; end of a romantic relationship; quitting a job, especially when you are fired; moving to another city (you may feel emptied by the new experience, not knowing anyone in the new city, and not having your old friends around); and several other cycles that end in life.

Working with fashion and having a connection with art since I was a child, I notice similarities between life and the changes that inevitably happen throughout it, and fashion, and the changes that also happen in it, at different paces for different types of products.

Grief is a phase where we can learn something important about ourselves. At least for those who are mature, which does not depend on age. This also goes for when someone we love dies. There are many questions we can try to answer in these grieving situations to see what we can learn from the situation.

Comment the questions you've already asked yourself in a period of grief. Your comment might be useful to someone and might help you find answers if you haven't found them yet, or know different answers. My contribution is in the playlist and in the next texts. Click on my Spotify profile link in the sidebar, follow my profile and listen to the “Songs to deal with grief” playlist.

Follow my profiles on social networks for more content.

Nycka

🇬🇧 Does wearing black make you look thinner?

Does wearing black make you look thinner?

I'm Nycka, an expert in colours, shapes and textures as non verbal communication tools, I work as a stylist, photographer and visual artist and in this text I'm going to talk about this popular belief about the colour black.

If you wear black from head to toe, you won't look any thinner for it. Maybe so, in some environments, compared to wearing head-to-toe white, but there are smarter choices. In an environment surrounded by light colours, wearing black from head to toe will only make you look fatter. Since you have little or no control over the colours in your environment and you have complete control over the colours you wear, it's smarter to choose colours, shapes, and textures that flatter you in any environment. How? Hiring my stylist service.

There are ways to include black in the look that cause the illusion that you are thinner, and other colours can usually be used when black does not flatter the person.

Another important point is that black used from head to toe by people who are overweight or want to hide localised fat is that this choice screams insecurity, low self-esteem and lack of qualified guidance.

When it comes to personal style, following what most people do is a bad choice. Mainly because following the herd means not having style. But also because these common beliefs, such as that black looks good on everyone or that wearing black from head to toe will look thinner are false. Journalists, bloggers and influencers don't have the repertoire of a professional like me and spread a lot of nonsense due to lack of knowledge. And that's exactly why you need to hire my stylist service to have expert guidance on the style rules that apply to your profile. Follow the instructions on the “Services available” page.

Nycka

🇬🇧 Masculine and feminine colours

“Girls wear pink and boys wear blue”. Have you ever heard anyone say that? Perhaps you have already said or thought this. Perhaps the “masculine” and “feminine” colours in your country are different.

I'm Nycka, stylist expert in colours, shapes and textures as non-verbal communication tools. I also use this knowledge in my work as a photographer and visual artist. In this text I will talk a little about this belief. Are there male and female colours? Do colours have gender?

The psychology of colours brings important perspectives to be evaluated, proven in the study of art. Nossa Senhora Aparecida, patroness of Brazil, wears a dark blue mantle. Is she a he? No. Many other female religious figures are depicted wearing blue in artwork, and male religious figures such as Jesus Christ are often painted wearing red.

Blue is psychologically related to characteristics that binary thinkers call "feminine": calm, purity, etc. Red, where pink comes from, is linked to "masculine" characteristics such as aggressiveness and impetuosity. I should point out that we all have personality traits that are stereotyped as female and male, regardless of our biological gender. Nobody in this world naturally has only "feminine" characteristics or only "masculine" characteristics. If someone fits these stereotypes 100% it is a result of how they were raised, repressing many of their natural characteristics. The oriental yin-yang symbol represents this well. Healthy people have “masculine” and “feminine” personality traits in balance.

The most famous artistic images of Jesus depict a long-haired man wearing a tunic. I've never seen a picture of Jesus wearing pants. And I say this because the idea that skirts are an exclusive piece of women's wardrobe is also a social construction. Clothes have no gender. Colours have no gender. Behaviours have no gender. And there is no male or female haircut either. In the case of clothing, there are slight differences in male and female modelling to better fit the body shapes of men and women. Which does not prohibit anyone from wearing clothes made with the modelling of the other gender. And there are countless people who understand this. A clear example is the men’s autumn/winter 2023/24 shows that I commented here on the site. They all had skirts and other pieces commonly associated with women's wardrobe.

Society is more involved in the process of self-knowledge and emotional maturation and this generates greater interest in an authentic personal image, developed with specialised professional guidance. To access this, schedule a meeting following the instructions on the “Services available” page.

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🌍 Fashion has always been inclusive

In this text, 6 of the reasons why I, who have been working in the fashion industry since I was a child, understand that fashion has always been inclusive:

1. There have always been ateliers that CREATE bespoke clothing. Luxury brands also make bespoke clothing. Maybe you know no brand or atelier doing this. Nice to meet you. I can help you find these places. They’re more expensive than a lot of junk on the market nowadays, especially brands that make their clothes in Asia, but they tend to fit a lot better. I'm not talking about people who imitate the creation of others. By the way, some big brands have already been caught imitating creations by lesser known designers. I'm in favour of valuing original work, because I create fashion myself when it makes sense. Whether it's a small fashion designer who lives in a village in Chile and has never appeared in VOGUE or a big company with stores on several continents, I don't care. I want design, authenticity and respect for the professionals inside and outside the company.
2. Even brands that work only with standardised sizes have a reasonable size grid. I've always had wide hips and the pants models wear during fashion shows don't fit my hips. And I always wore a size medium (by Brazilian standards. In the numerical standard, I wore a Brazilian size 42 until the last time I bought trousers). This means that there are clothes in considerably larger sizes, because certainly the trousers that fit me don't fit the hips of those who wear a large size. Brazilian patterns have a variation of one number for every 4 centimetres of the hip, and for sizes that use a letter pattern (small, medium and large) the variation is usually 2 or 3 numbers (8 to 12 centimetres). This does not include all possible sizes, all levels of obesity, nor issues such as dwarfism, physical disabilities, etc. But, for all this and for people of regular sizes who are more demanding, there are brands that make to measure.
3. Every brand (not only in fashion) has a target audience. And each company decides its target audience independently. There are companies with the most varied profiles. If you only know a few, you need my services. Furthermore, if you are not a brand's target audience, nobody prevents you from buying it. I've had short hair for two decades now and I've never been deterred from buying shampoo. And the shampoo campaigns are always with models with much longer hair than I've had at any stage of my life. I’m not their target and I buy shampoo anyway. It makes more sense than complaining that they don't put girls with pixie haircuts in advertising.
4. It is IMPOSSIBLE to represent all possible physical characteristics on the runway. Many features will always be missing.
5. Too often, people who complain about a lack of representation or inclusion do nothing to show their worth to the world. They spread prejudice instead of acceptance. I have short hair and I value short hair, I talk about it, I help other women with short hair feel accepted and beautiful. And I respect the ones who prefer long hair and help them to feel beautiful too. And this is only one example of many I could mention.
6. If you want clothes that fit perfectly and no store has something that fits you perfectly, you must pay for custom-made clothes. If you don't want to pay for custom-made clothes, you can get other clothes elsewhere. Not the best fit, but you find something. If you don't want to pay for my consultancy, you can find advice elsewhere, but you won't find anyone as experienced as I am or with the same repertoire. I’m the best style advisor worldwide. In this life you get what you are willing to pay to have. 

Maybe now that you know my point of view, you understand that fashion has always been inclusive. It's you who never had enough information to understand this or never wanted to invest your money in the best resources in the industry. And now that you do have information, share this post with your friends and anyone you know and help people get informed and know their options.

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🌍 Why this fad of inclusion in fashion should stop

When will this fad for inclusion in fashion stop? Guys, it's no use.

Most people don't know how to choose what suits them, nor are they really interested in knowing. I worked for years with style consultancy and many people, even knowing it, did not seek professional guidance.

The best the fashion industry can do is let these people dress poorly. No one will stop buying clothes because they don't have dwarf models, pregnant models, fat models, amputees, transsexuals and everything else you can imagine in campaigns, and as there is much more than that, brands will never represent all possible profiles.

The vast majority of people don't have style and never will. This inclusion fad only alienates the public that has style and is interested in clothes with a different design, because we don't want to be like the many people who don't have style and never will.

Style requires self-awareness. And things like being able to see an outfit on the runway or in the store and know whether that outfit is going to flatter us or not. Most people don't have the discernment for that. They never will. And those who like to invest in style don't like to be levelled down like the brands that are raising the banner of inclusion are doing.

I've never been skinny like a model. I've always had wide hips. And I've always been passionate about using fashion to enhance my style. I've worked with this my whole life. Currently I am determined to work with art, but fashion occupies an important position in my life because it was through it that I began to give voice to the artist that I am. It's like that person we dated for years, and the relationship ends without drama and becomes a friendship of great value due to the level of intimacy we have.

Brands that use this false speech of inclusion deserve to be boycotted, because they treat everyone like idiots. Including people they pretend to include. The thinking portion of fashion consumers cannot afford this type of brand by buying their products. The portion that does not think does what it wants. The less stupid and less insecure will follow the example of those with critical thinking.

As an artist, I will always value people who think, who value art and who don't blindly follow the herd.

As a fine art photographer, authorial fashion is closely linked to my work.

If you value art and know how to use the brain app, you value my work and don't feel offended by my content, even if you disagree with my opinions.  If you want to express yours, feel free.

Rather than encouraging attitudes of emotional codependency, need for approval, I advocate authenticity and knowing what values ​​our personality and appearance.

I believe that business leaders have to be leaders with responsibility and assessing the social consequences of their choices. Rubbing the head of those who are ignorant because they want doesn’t help these people to be more self-aware, to understand themselves better and to evolve as human beings. It only reinforces accommodation in a position that is socially negative. Human beings are made to develop personally, professionally and emotionally.

That’s why this fad for inclusion in fashion should stop. I hope it does soon.

Nycka

🇬🇧 Songs to deal with grief

This Christmas it will be twenty years since I last saw my father alive. He was my biggest emotional support. I decided to make a list of songs to deal with grief, or to listen to when we miss someone we love and has passed away. As in some parts of the world it is common to gather the family at Christmas, it can be more difficult to deal with losses during this period. Perhaps the list is useful to listen to in other situations of grief, of closing cycles as well, but I made it thinking about this type of grief. I believe that we should show love while we are alive and I try to do that. The list mixes a bit of what I listen to when I miss someone I'll never see again and songs written for situations of losing someone the composer loves.

• Love in the afternoon, by Legião Urbana.
• Letter to Dana from Sonata Arctica.
• Tears in Heaven by Eric Clapton.
• Gostava tanto de você, de Tim Maia.
• Wake Me Up When September Ends by Green Day.
• Farewell, from Apocalyptica.
• The Loneliest, by Måneskin.
• Need to Believe, by Gotthard. The album this song is part of was the last released during singer Steve Lee's lifetime.
• Come home, by OneRepublic and Sara Bareilles. It's not a song about grief, as far as I'm aware, but it has a sing-to-cry energy.
• Kiss while your lips are still red, by Nightwish.
• Dead boy’s poem, by Nightwish.
• Wish you were here, by Pink Floyd.

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🇬🇧 World Cup and the profession of the future

End of the World Cup and maybe it's the last time this year that I'm going to talk about football here. I haven't followed the World Cup for over twenty years. This year I saw most of Brazil's games and nothing else. Yesterday I decided to watch the final between Argentina and France. France in the first half looked like they were just present in the game so as not to lose by W.O. As I didn't see the other games of the two teams in the competition, I even suspected a bought game, corruption. The famous Mbape barely saw the ball. It was so ridiculous.

In the second half, Mbape woke up after hitting a penalty and carried the team on his back. In the whole game, those who saw it know that apart from a goal in the decisive penalties, he was the only one to score for France.

Speaking of penalties, I want to see Martinez, the goalkeeper of the Argentine national team, playing for Palmeiras. And I want to see who is going to say that him doing a little dance after saving the second penalty was disrespectful. Or was the scolding only with the Brazilian team?

But what I spent the whole game looking at was the importance of player mental health. The commentators on the channel I was watching said that the emotions of the Argentine team were shaken after France's draw in regular time. Argentina returned to lead the game in overtime and had an excellent overtime, contrary to what the commentators said. Game bought or not, the extension made the victory of the South American team seem deserved. If you didn't see the game, Mbape tied the game and the match went to penalties, and, as happened in Brazil's game against Croatia, two French players missed penalties. The Argentine goalkeeper was brilliant. Go play at Palmeiras, Dibu!

I believe that the profession of the future is psychology focused on niches such as sports psychology and psychology for people with a lot of exposure in the media, such as musicians, actors, artists, influencers, etc. who are extremely exposed to the ups and downs of life and the opinions of others. Life experience, in addition to academic training, will be important for anyone who wants to stand out in this market. Falling into the temptation of judging that the client is too ambitious, that he dreams too high, or not understanding the frustration that is the result of a person being aware of having a giant talent and that talent not bringing the result (s)he expects are sure ways to destroy own career in psychology in the near future.

With the increased visibility of psychology in these niches, the population will seek to take more care of mental health, which is already a topic that is widely explored in social networks.

In a society where mental health is valued, it is easier to recognise one's own qualities and weaknesses, deal with it and also recognise the qualities of other people that can contribute to our growth. And it's easier to deal with the ups and downs, in life and in sport.

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🇬🇧 About brazilian dancing and attitude during the World Cup

Let's talk about the World Cup. Once again.

After the victory of the Brazilian team against South Korea, a former Irish player complained about the Brazilian players dancing after each goal. He said the dances were disrespectful to the opposing team. I've been following Brazilian football since the 90's. Goal celebrations vary from time to time and with the success of Tiktok, dancing is the newest trend. It's not just during the World Cup. In any game of the national or international championships, players from Brazilian teams celebrate in this way. So why criticise the national team for doing something they are used to doing and is harmful to nobody? Was it perhaps because of the former player's past of aggression on the field that he made the criticism? Could he be a macho man from the countryside who thinks that dancing is not a man's thing, and to play football one must demonstrate his masculinity by breaking an opponent's leg? The time for that kind of man has passed. In today's society there is very little room left for the aggressive man, fortunately.

On the other hand, the Brazilian team deserves criticism for another reason. Still on the game against South Korea, in the second half Brazil stopped playing. The game was sleepy. They looked like those bad students who just try hard enough to get through their grades in school. They opened an advantage over the opponent and lost the opportunity to play well and score more goals. In the group stage they did the same. In the game against Cameroon, as they had already secured a place in the round of 16, they relaxed and... they lost! They use the excuse that they played with a reserve team, but a national team should have the best players from that country. Including reserve players. Is that having a winning mindset? In my view, no. And I have my reasons for criticising the brazilian national team in this regard. Let's go to them.

Football is, above all, entertainment. People want to see beautiful plays and lots of goals. If it is possible to win 12-0, there is no reason, in the eyes of the fan, to accept winning only 4-1 (South Korea scored due to the ridiculous attitude of brazilian players in the second half of the game). And in football, as entertainment, the fan matters.

Another point: Palmeiras, the current Brazilian champions, has, since Abel Ferreira was hired as the team's coach, a very different mentality from that of being satisfied with securing the result. By respecting the fans by bringing a team that seeks to score the most goals per game and take the least number of goals from the opponent, the team gains support from the fans who sing and cheer and support the team even in very difficult games. Palmeiras also has a team that even with substitutions and improvisations, the team plays well. They don't use the excuse of playing with reserves to justify a defeat. The coach assumes the responsibility for the defeat, either because he chose the players badly, because he opted for a game strategy that did not work or for any other reason that he perceived as the cause of the problem.

Using the excuse of playing with a reserve team is childish. A sign of immaturity. It's like tripping over a stone and blaming the stone for having crossed your path. Those who act like this don't learn from their own mistakes.

Will Brazil reach the World Cup final? I don't know. With that mindset I don't trust enough. But eventually the student who puts in the least effort also is approved. But for anyone whose personal values ​​include  striving for excellence, this attitude is unacceptable.

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🇬🇧 Gwendoline Christie and the choices of tall women

In the previous text I talked about men in high heels. In this one I talk about tall women and the impact of common sense on their choices. Actress Gwendoline Christie, Larissa Weems from the series Wednesday, is 1.91 m tall and has already said that when she decided to be a film actress people around her said it would be difficult due to her height. I also saw she said that in the series Wednesday is the first time that she thinks she is beautiful on screen, because in other roles her image tended to be masculinised, usually without makeup, that feature that so many women love.

Many of us live in a society that is still very sexist and even women have sexist thoughts. And the beliefs we hold affect our choices. Including our style and career choices. Do not read this text thinking about the oppressor and the oppressed. It is a mistake. Think of individual responsibility. In what you do that reinforces your belief of being "oppressed", for example. I mentioned Gwendoline Christie because, from the little information I had about her, she didn't surrender to what the people around her said and believed in her ability to build the career she chose, the life she chose.

There is a lot of talk about “beauty standards”, and it is curious to note that even though all runway models are tall, ordinary women who are tall often feel uncomfortable with their height. Which reinforces what I said in another text I published here on the website about representation.

It is common for tall women not even to wear heels, which seems not to be a problem for Gwendoline Christie. In a text I wrote in 2008 on the subject, many women, some even shorter than me, who am 1.75 m, said that they don't wear heels because they would look much taller than their friends and boyfriends. I've been wearing heels since I was a kid and one of my best friends in high school was a ballerina. And, of course, shorter than me. And we keep in touch today, even almost thirty years after finishing high school.

About love relationships, where does the need for a taller man come from? Gwendoline's partner is 6cm shorter than her (according to information I found on the internet). Why would it be embarrassing for a woman to date a shorter man? Why would it be embarrassing for a man to date a taller woman? Height we cannot change. It's one of those things that you either accept yours or you accept it. Heels can make someone look taller, but they also convey other messages. Among them, that of assuming your personal power. And this is also possible for tall women. As I commented in the previous text, if even tall men wear heels, there is no reason for tall women to limit themselves to shoes without heels.

Certainly, the way people educate their daughters interferes with these impressions, as well as what is publicised by the local media. In Brazil, it is common to repress girls who act like boys, who sit with their legs apart, or cross their legs in order to occupy more space, as it is common for men to do. I know the weight of the family's opinion in a child's head, but I assume that those who read my content are adults. It's already easier to question, even very ingrained beliefs in the mind.

About career, in adolescence I often heard that I should be a volleyball player. I was very bad at team sports, including football, which I played until I was about 12 years old at a time when women's football did not exist in Brazil. Once they invited me to play volleyball on the school team because I was tall. I knew almost nothing. No one at school or on the team offered to teach me. One day I went to my cousin's house and we played until I learned, at least, how to serve the ball. Nobody told me we had a game that day and when I got to school I found out that the team lost by W.O. I only won because I solved the “problem” of not knowing how to play volleyball. And I preferred to follow professional paths where my creativity is more relevant than my physique. Today I see professional athletes in a different way.

How much do you let other people's opinions of your height influence your decisions? Are you submissive to the opinions of family members and close people or do you seek to build a life that exalts your qualities? 

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🇬🇧 Playing in high heels

The World Cup is taking place in Qatar and, in football, sometimes people say that a player is playing in high heels (I know they say that in Brazil, I don't know if there is an equivalent expression in other languages). This means that he thinks he is better than others and at the same time puts in less effort. Illuminate my ignorance and comment if there is an equivalent expression in your language and what it is. This text is about other ways of wearing heels, mainly by men.

In addition, of course, to men who have a fetish for feminisation, for dressing like a woman, there are those who wear heels without looking for a feminine image.

Back in the 80s, Tom Cruise wore heels to look taller in Top Gun. You didn't see it, but he wore it because he's much shorter than actress Kelly McGillis, who was his love interest in the movie.

Robert de Niro wore high platform shoes to look taller than Al Pacino in "The Irishman".

Robert Downey Jr., Brad Pitt, Vin Diesel, Mark Wahlberg, Daniel Radcliffe, among other actors, some of whom are over 6 feet tall, wear shoes that make them look taller.

If tall men wear shoes that make them look taller, I see no problem with tall women wearing heels. In fact, I've never had a problem with tall women wearing heels, and as I'm 5'11, I've always worn heels. In recent years I prefer combat boots and boots without heels because for my current job they are usually more comfortable, but I still wear high heels.

Among male celebrities who wear heels as part of their style, not just to look taller, we have names like Sir Elton John, Prince, Jared Leto, Troye Sivan, Cody Fern, Adam Lambert, Brendon Urie, Damiano David and many others.

Have you - man - ever tried wearing shoes with high heels?

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