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Já ouvi várias vezes a expressão “já pode casar”, em geral usada como “elogio” a alguém que preparou uma boa comida, um docinho delicioso, enfim, uma pessoa que acertou a mão na cozinha. Geralmente uma mulher, mas vou ignorar o sentido machista desta vez, porque a expressão é tão tosca que nem precisa desse argumento. Legalmente, para casar a pessoa só precisa ter idade e com quem casar. Deve ter de pagar alguma taxa também. Mas as habilidades culinárias nada têm a ver com isso. E se for pensar em habilidades, as culinárias também não deveriam ter tal peso, visto que muito mais importante que isso é ter maturidade emocional para um relacionamento e para construir uma família. Maturidade esta que infelizmente muita gente casa sem ter. Maturidade emocional é uma qualidade difícil de ser cultivada, mas que vale a pena. Tira de jogo muito do senso comum que crescemos acreditando como se fossem verdades absolutas. Nos liberta das prisões que nossa família, aquelas pessoas que se casa...

I watched this movie yesterday and I was happy to see the movie don’t show “minorities”. It shows various different people united for a show. Nobody is there to defend those who are physically equal to themselves. People physically equal to ourselves don’t exist! Minorities don’t exist. Each individual is unique! To believe in minorities is to deny your individuality, to desperately try to find someone like you, denying what makes you unique. For this reason I believe style and even professional plans must be considered individually. Like art. True art is never a copy. Some singer trying to sing a cover of someone else cannot be considered an artist if the singer is trying to imitate the original style. That’s why many musicians are not valued. They didn’t find their professional identity. The same for many other professional activities. There are many teachers who don’t encourage their students to develop critical sense. They just repeat what they learned. They are shallow. Teacher...

Life teach us discreetly to improve constantly. Not everyone understands this simple lesson. When we go to school we start learning some easy things, that are challenging for us that time, and the challenges increase year after year. Some students are lazy and barely study enough to pass to the next level. Other ones are interested in understand each theme and ask questions, research in books or in the internet, etc. To study is not about to go to school or to the university. To study is to cultivate the desire to learn and to improve. When we play video games, each level is more difficult than the previous one. At work, more than ambition, what make us go from assistant or intern to manager or director should be this need of being better day after day, to embrace new challenges and generate self development. Lazy students become mediocre professionals. Outstanding professionals are built from childhood, learning to appreciate challenges since they’re very young. Are sports ...

There’s a Gotthard’s song which starts saying: “I've been lost and found, run out of grace Felt the city's cold embrace, and I learned the hard way How it feels to be lonely I've seen perfect skies, turn into grey Had my dreams all washed away And I realised what I wanted was already mine I'm back to where I belong Been a long time gone, now it feels like home” It’s a love song, but this first part can help us to think about so many things. Pay attention you’re reading the words of a nomad.  I’ll consider this sense of belonging from three points of view in this post. Sense of belonging and work-life balance : for this point I must say this balance is about to organise the 24 hours we have daily in a way we can work, eat, sleep and have time to practice self-development, to meet friends, to have a time with quality with our family, to practice a foreign language and sports, and to enjoy art and culture, etc. I believe we are made to practice con...

Sono brasiliana, nascita in una città con circa trecentomila persone ma che non è una destinazione turistica. Oggigiorno vivo in una città con un po’ meno di due milioni di persone nel sud di mio paese che non è anche una città famosa come destinazione turistica per straniere. Io vedo molti vantaggi in incoraggiare il turismo. Penso che sia una industria che può cambiare la realtà di qualche città in questo mondo. Perché? Ho quattro ragioni principali: Credo che con il turismo, i negozi locali devono migliorare i suoi prodotti e servizi in modo a piacere persone con un livello più grande di esigenza che quello dei cittadini locali. Migliorando, loro possono vendere i suoi prodotti e servizi fuori, apprendo negozi in altri città e paesi diversi, esportando i suoi prodotti e così via. Sì, il turismo può aiutare altre industrie e negozi locali. Il turismo può attrarre denaro di persone di tutto il mondo, in modo che una città non rimane dipendente del denaro delle persone che sono...

As an independent professional, sometimes playing as a freelance, and often helping people to deal with their professional doubts, this question is often presented to me by myself or other people. Many businesses still measure work according to hours. The regular employees work from 9 to 5 (or other schedule, according to the country). But this is a disadvantage for businesses with a culture of excellence and growth. Why do I believe this method is wrong for such businesses? It’s simple. Considering only how many hours each employee is working, a proactive, dynamic professional is able to deliver much more results in a day than a lazy colleague. So, what’s the advantage of being proactive and dynamic - as many recruiters ask candidates to be - if the culture of that business doesn’t encourage these qualities? None! So, talented people leave the business as soon as possible and go after other opportunities and possibilities. Only by treasuring talented professionals and offerin...

Last Monday I watched Bohemian Rhapsody with some friends. I was enchanted with the strength of the main character. I know the movie is not completely faithful to the life of Freddie Mercury, but it caused a positive impact on me. I love biographies, in books or movies. And I love them even more when I see something similar to my own life or to the person I want to be. As many biographies, the movie exhibit conflicts and moments of joy. I’m grateful for loving reading biographies since I was an adolescent because this helped me to see everyone have conflicts and sufferings, and the way to deal with that is far different to the way the majority does. I really appreciate strong people who don’t need to pretend emotions or ideas they don’t have. I appreciate people who are able to be themselves in a positive way. People who express themselves clearly, not saying something in codes only they and their peers are able to understand. I like people who are able to tell about their feeli...

Qualcuno che mi conosce un po’ sa che amo biografie, sia in libri, sia in film. Questo lunedì ho visto Bohemian Rhapsody con alcuni amici. Il film non è tecnicamente perfetto, e come biografia non è completamente fedele alla vita di Freddie Mercury, ma è curioso osservare un film come questo e ascoltare altre persone parlando di quello che hanno pensato circa il personaggio centrale. Una psicologa presente ha interpretato la personalità di Freddie come negativa, come se lui avesse vissuto su una lama di coltello, tra una intensità molto forte di vita e un’altra molto forte di morte. Io ho concentrato mia osservazione nel fatto che lui ha vissuto cose che potevano contribuire per lui avere bassa autostima, ma tutto il film mostra un uomo forte, molto cosciente dei suoi talenti.  Ha conflitto, ma ha conflitto nella vita di tutti noi. Quello che fa alcune persone più interessanti è il modo come ognuno affronta il conflitto. Molti sono vittime di bullismo o hanno qualche difficoltà ...

The iconic movie “Easy Rider”, from 1969, celebrated 50 years recently. Peter Fonda, one of the stars in the movie, died in 2019 too. I had the opportunity to watch this movie for the second time this Saturday.   Easy Rider is about two men who were travelling from LA to the Mardi Gras in New Orleans. The photography is astonishing. The soundtrack is wonderful. We see two men travelling in customised motorcycles and we forget how boring can be to hear nothing but the motorcycles and themselves for many kilometres. Currently we can travel listening to music while riding but we’re talking about 1969, before the famous Woodstock festival. The technology was not that fine. The movie shows the guys making friends and enemies along the road. There is an amazing speech from George Hanson (Jack Nicholson) during the movie where he speaks about what his two travel companions represent to many people. He talks about freedom. And how free people disturb “normal” people. We know this fr...

I am brazilian. One of the first songs I learned studying english was Tracy Chapman’s “Baby, can I hold you”. This song talks about how to express feelings through gestures. It’s a beautiful song. Yesterday I woke up and received a message of “Good morning” from a friend from abroad on my cellphone. The perfect timing, as he sent the message a few minutes before I wake up. The cellphone were on silent mode while I slept. Then another friend sent a video about the September 11, when the twin towers felt down, and about the value of those people we appreciate. And while I was writing this post, navigating on Facebook while thinking on how to say what is in my mind, I saw a video from that song.  The simple attitudes of my friends reminded me the day my father died and that I felt I was unable to express my feelings properly, I felt as if I didn’t have expressed well how much I appreciated him. It was on January 2004. And here I am, more than fifteen years later, observing ho...

Alcune persone pensano come se avessero questi due mondi diversi. Io lavoro con comunicazione digitale quindici anni fa e ho cominciato ad usare la internet in 1999, nello secolo scorso. Non vedo due mondi diversi. Solo vedo computer e cellulare come risorse per arricchire la mia vita. Qui vado compartire mio modo di vedere e come vivo questo perché spento molto tempo online. Da quando ho cominciato spento molte ore davanti il computer o, più recentemente, con un smartphone in mano. Ma il mio modo di vivere il digitale è quello di considerarlo una risorsa per conoscere persone e culture diverse più facilmente che viaggiando. Mi piace moltissimo viaggiare e vivere in luoghi diversi, ma con la internet posso conoscere molto più. In un’ora posso parlare con cinesi, italiani, inglesi, brasiliani, norvegesi... e dopo possiamo creare opportunità per dialogare in persona, con viaggi.  Le persone che pensano in mondo reale e virtuale come mondi diversi non accettano che ha un’altra ...

Uma cultura de excelência começa cedo, na infância. Tive a boa sorte de buscar ser uma boa aluna desde muito jovem e, trabalhando desde muito cedo, também buscava ser excelente neste campo. Eu sempre me cobrei muito. Era complicado lidar com essa cobrança, mas tinha suas vantagens no tempo de escola e muitas vantagens extras que descobri posteriormente e desfruto hoje. A diferença entre quem é original e quem é medíocre começa ali. O medíocre se contenta em ter notas para passar. Eu, mesmo nas matérias que detestava, tentava aprender. Eu tive professores de química e física no ensino médio cujos métodos de ensino não eram muito positivos para mim. Leia-se: gente que ensinava esperando que o aluno decorasse a matéria e só. Não gosto de decorar matérias e repetir feito papagaio. Gosto de pensar. Quando fiz cursinho pré-vestibular tive sorte de ter professores destas mesmas matérias que usavam uma metodologia mais prática e consegui aprender algo. Tem gente que sob essa cobrança in...

Someone asked me why some businesses don’t hire the best candidates. Other asked for whom is easier to find a job and for whom is harder. My answer for both is another question: If the sexiest celebrity (you choose the gender) wanted to date you, would you feel afraid to have so precious partner or would you embrace the opportunity confidently? Your choice tells a lot about your decisions as a leader or your decisions while looking for a job, and also about other personal choices. To get the best of your personal brand, hire my style consultancy. Nycka, the Nomad #personalbranding

The theories on the evolution of species show us who wins the challenges in life. The cries of those pitying themselves are only worthy when they’re open to conquer their weaknesses and evolve. Otherwise they’re shameful. I’m grateful I had known many different realities along life and I choose to create the reality I prefer for myself. I’m lucky as I meet great people from time to time and I’m not obligated to keep the mediocre ones around. I’m lucky because I built my luck and currently I can write about anything and my services are available without the need to prove my competences as I already did this. Mediocrity is ridiculous because it’s too simple to be left behind if the person is willing to do this. It’s a problem for the majority just because they have the false belief outstanding people have an easy life and never faced hardships when the true is most outstanding people faced boldly their inner enemies while mediocre people only try to find someone else to blame ...