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The text today is for everyone who doesn't usually go out alone to parties, bars, restaurants, movies, trips, or anything else. People dependent on company for fun. The reasons can be countless, but you are limiting your life and creating addictive relationships with friends, partner, etc. That doesn't sound very healthy to me.
I watched a video of a woman who got divorced and, as friends used to do go out in couples, she ended up without companions to go out and she didn't go out for years, and the times she tried to go out to dinner alone, she felt judged even by the waiters.
I'm not going to judge divorced women who close themselves off from the world, who don't adapt to the situation. I just say that if you are in this situation or are afraid to go out alone (or alone), travel alone, etc., you are missing out on countless opportunities to be happy and enjoy life. This blog has many tips for those who don't want to miss opportunities for fear, prejudice, feeling of loneliness or any other reason.
Nomads often have to do things on their own, for being new to a place and not yet having friends there. The big difference is that this feeling of loneliness, even if it happens, does not bother us because we know it is temporary and that we are interesting people and soon we will change that circumstance, soon we will find people with similar interests.
Will they judge you? Look... if you're really involved in having fun, you won't notice anyone judging you. If you leave already afraid of what others will think, you won't enjoy whatever you try to do, because you'll be too busy imagining every look in your direction as judgment. Stop being stupid and go live!
I've already commented here, but it was at the very beginning of the blog and I gained thousands of readers afterwards, so I repeat: when I moved to another city for the first time, my mother used to say that a woman who goes out alone is a whore. And I had to have lunch alone the first Monday in the new town. So as not to feel vulnerable or look around, I took a book to the restaurant. The book was my company. And I ended up noticing that many women were having lunch alone there and that certainly my mother's view of women going out alone was prejudiced and limited. From then on I gained confidence to go to the movies alone (if it's one of those movies with long queues it's much better to go alone, as it's easier to find a place just for you than places together for you and whoever else is with you), trips, shows...
Have you ever been to a concert by the Brazilian band Sepultura? They are famous all over the world. It was one of my most memorable concert experiences that I went alone. I've already commented on how it was here on the blog. Read the ancient texts if you want to imagine. But I recommend that you live the experience when you have the opportunity. Even if their music isn't your favourite style.
It's a huge waste of time to be stuck with limiting beliefs we've inherited from our family. It is a great waste of time not to do something for lack of company.
Another point that the woman in the video commented on was the lack of someone to talk to, to share the experience with. At several shows I went to, I talked to people in line. About movies and anything you don't have anyone to share with, it's worth using social media and exchanging ideas with people who also saw that movie or went to that restaurant, museum, whatever. What doesn't count is putting lack of companionship as responsible for choosing your fear over choosing to live. No more excuses! If this pandemic didn't make you want to live, to stop being ruled by irrational fears and prejudices, nothing else can!
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Nycka, the Nomad
