🇬🇧 The most important investment

What’s our biggest active, the most important investment we must have? Ourselves. 

If you agree with me you already have a part of your money saved to invest in yourself. And what should we consider to invest in ourselves? I consider basically three points: 

• Style: fashion and beauty products and services. This is a point we should never try the cheap path;
• Health. Sometimes we can use public services to save more for the other points if the quality of public services are tolerable;
• Content: art, culture, professional courses and other resources to improve our content and exercise the critical sense. Sometimes we find good resources for this investment for free.

You maybe believe I forgot leisure. I didn’t. If culture and art are not included in your leisure, you’re spending precious resources on worthless things.

Other investments are obviously important, but to invest in yourself is very important. For me, this is my biggest priority. You can manage this setting a percentage of your income to invest, and deciding how much of this percentage is for these investments and how much is to invest in your business and financial investments. But you cannot neglect the wise investment in yourself.

As we’re talking about investment it is to save money to spend in the right moment. Not to spend buying clothes every month.

Nycka, the nomad

🇬🇧 Advantages of being short

Someone asked me, so, I answer it. I’m 175cm tall, and I consider myself a tall woman but I think to be short has some advantages, as well as to be tall. As usually those who ask this kind of question imagine life would be much better if they had a different condition (in this case, being tall), and feel they live in disadvantage I believe my point of view is relevant.

• For short women: almost any man you know is taller than you. I remember once I wrote about tall women wearing high heels. I love high heels although I don’t wear them often in Curitiba. But most tall women I know avoid them all the time, anywhere. Many tall women commented this blog post about high heels telling it was hard to find a boyfriend taller than themselves and this helped them to avoid heels. I had only one relationship with a man much taller than myself, but it was amazing. For tall women this is rare. For short women this is easily possible!
• For short men: although usually women prefer taller men, there are lots of short women and some can be as tall as you are or a bit smaller. And, thinking about the comments women did in that post about tall women wearing heels and my own personal experience, there are women who accept smaller men as boyfriends.
• Still thinking about relationships, for sex, your height makes no difference.
• Professionally, the only career I know short people are refused is as catwalk model. But commercial models can have any height, weight or age. Various catwalk models are famous, but, at least in brazilian advertising, many commercial models are famous too.
• Socially, I see no problems related to height. I have various friends who are short.
• And... to travel, short people have a big advantage. They can travel comfortably long distances on the back seat of a car or using the economic class of buses or airplanes. For tall people these options for long distances are horribly uncomfortable.

So, to be short have various advantages, only different from some that tall people have. Relax and enjoy your height.

Nycka, the Nomad

🇧🇷 Existe alguma vantagem de ter baixa estatura?

Perguntaram. Eu respondo. Eu tenho 1,75m, me considero alta, mas penso que ser baixo tem algumas vantagens, assim como ser alto. Como normalmente quem faz esse tipo de pergunta pensa numa vida hipotética de como seria se tivesse outra condição (no caso, ser alto) e por isso se sente em desvantagem, acho que meu ponto de vista é relevante.

• Para mulheres, é quase impossível ficar sem achar um homem mais alto. Lembro que uma vez escrevi sobre mulheres altas de salto no blog… eu amo usar salto, embora não use muito em Curitiba, mas a maioria das mulheres altas que conheço não usa….. e muuuuuuitas mulheres (altas) comentaram o post dizendo que era super difícil encontrar um namorado mais alto por isso acabavam abandonando os saltos. Eu já tive um “relacionamento de balada” (um ficante fixo) com um boy muito mais alto que eu, que mesmo eu na ponta dos pés ele abaixava pra me beijar, mas pra mulheres altas essa experiência é bem rara de se ter. E… é bom!!!! 😇 Não deve ser lá muito confortável pro cara, mas é bom, e ninguém precisa beijar em pé o tempo todo. Nem nós. Quase todos os meus relacionamentos foram com homens mais altos, mas apenas um muito mais alto (e um mais baixo).
• Para homens, embora normalmente mulheres prefiram homens mais altos, sempre existem mulheres baixas mesmo de salto ficam num tamanho confortável perto de vocês. Tenho um amigo baixinho que conheço há muitos anos que ficou um tempão solteiro, mas achou uma namorada muito bonita e nesse perfil de menor que ele. Agora os dois já estão juntos há uns dois ou três anos. Além disso, pela minha experiência pessoal e pelos comentários do texto sobre saltos que mencionei no tópico anterior, sei que tem mulheres que, se gostam, saem com baixinhos, sem problemas.
• Ainda do ponto de vista de relacionamentos… um outro amigo meu, um pouco mais baixo, dizia que na horizontal tudo é igual. Traduzindo: altura não é impedimento pro sexo.
• Para questões profissionais me parece que ser baixo só impede as pessoas de serem modelos de passarela. Porque modelos comerciais podem ser baixos. E outras profissões normalmente não têm restrições de altura. A Gisele Bundchen é famosa, mas o “baixinho da Kaiser” também era. 😉
• No campo social, não vejo problemas ligados à altura. Você deve ter percebido que tenho amigos e amigas mais baixos.
• Ao viajar, baixinhos ficam confortáveis de qualquer jeito. Altos sofrem em viagens longas de carro (no banco de trás) ou na classe econômica de ônibus e aviões!

Então, ser baixo tem pontos positivos e negativos, assim como ser alto. Relaxa e seja feliz com sua altura.

Nycka, the nomad

🇬🇧 Love, respect and choices

Many people feel as if fashion is a cage. I grew up with low self esteem and fashion helped me to defeat this problem. Fashion can set us free if we want to be free. Currently I’m able to see my beauty and I see the beauty in other people in a way any person I see I imagine how he or she would look better according to ones personality and, if I know, social status and other details. Obviously I don’t share these thoughts. This is my job.

There was a time I was very sad for the people who refused the opportunity to discover this best self. Currently I’m aware each person has a time to discover he or she can be deserves something better. As I mentioned in the previous text, about the cost-benefits ratio, some people are able to buy things in that base. Many are still buying following other paths. And this is part of the path to self-improvement. Everyone, independent on social, cultural or financial status, lives to practice self-improvement. Some don’t see this and carry their chains all life long.

As my understanding of human beings increased, as my understanding of myself increased, I noticed I’m here to help those who are ready to receive what I offer. I don’t need to feel pity for the others. Maybe they never grow enough to deserve me. And it’s OK. It was my own choice to put my attention on the top and the top is not for everyone. I’m not perfect. Nobody is. But regarding my professional activities I know my abilities and what kind of people they can satisfy. It was a long path to arrive at this point, to be comfortable with who I am, to accept my choices and the limits of others. But I’m happy as the one who walk the path is able to teach others how to find their paths.

Nycka, the nomad

🇬🇧 Style and the cost-benefits ratio

The cost-benefits ratio is not simple to calculate. Many people use price alone to choose what to buy. This is a mistake because price alone is not a standard to calculate the ratio cost-benefit and to choose price alone is often to choose the products with most inferior quality and the least benefits of all.

If you compare 1 kg of rice from a brand X in two different supermarkets you’re comparing price alone. If you compare the prices of the packs with 1kg of rice from different brands you’re comparing price alone. If you want a pair of five pockets jeans, no matter the brand, and you choose the cheapest, you’re comparing price alone.

So, how would it be the choice based on the ratio cost-benefits for these things? For the rice you should consider other standards as the flavour (yes, there are different flavours for different brands), the nutritional value, the social impact each brand causes, the environmental impact, and so on. For the trousers, I gave an example of a personal experience here once. Now I tell it again for you to understand.

In the distant year of 1998, some weeks before to move from Montes Claros to Uberlândia, I bought fabulous trousers from a brand that was my favourite and unfortunately doesn’t exist anymore. It was the sexiest trousers I ever bought (I’m talking about one piece of clothes, one item only... that’s why I used “it” referring to trousers. Sorry if it’s grammatically wrong). It costed R$40,00 that time (minimum salary was R$70,00 per month). Then, a few weeks after I’m living in Uberlândia, my neighbour entered the apartment wearing beautiful trousers with that bell cut I used to love. I didn’t know the brand but the trousers were charming, and it costed the same R$40,00 I paid in the other some weeks before. I bought one equal to hers and embroidered it to be different, because I appreciate exclusivity and she was my companion to go out, so, it was better to do this. Both trousers were beautiful and fitted perfectly. The difference to calculate cost-benefit ratio? The time they were useful. The first I had up to last year and could have for more time, but I needed to change the zipper and I didn’t, so, I threw it away. The second one lasted two years before I need to throw it away because the fabric was horrible and opened in some places. So, one costed me R$40,00 to be worn often (while I was at the university I used to wear it three times a week) during 20 years, and the other costed a bit more (considering I spent to embroider it) to last two years only. The second was ten times more expensive considering the cost-benefit ratio, although comparing price alone both had the same price.

Quality alone is not enough to calculate that ratio, but it’s one that most people don’t understand as their references are too limited. As in the example of the rice, there are other aspects to consider to enrich the analysis. People who refuse to analyse the quality, the lifetime of their clothing, as one of the standards are making a poor choice. But we must go further and analyse other standards as the social and environmental impact of each brand.

How is the fitting of those clothing to your body? Does those clothing treasure your personal colours? Does that brand offer fair salaries to their employees? Does it offer encouragement for them to study to occupy a higher position in the future in that company? Does it segregate people, paying less for women? Do they usually fire their employees after a maternity leave? Are its employees working in a healthy environment? What’s the impact of that brand in the environment? Are its designs original or the brand is imitating some designs created by other brands? Are its salespeople natural and helpful? Do that brand deliver quickly when we shop online? For fashion industries, if their products are made by third parties, are these suppliers honest with their employees, considering the previous questions? These are some questions we must keep in mind. If you’re vegan or vegetarian there are some extra questions. According to your goals other questions can be included. But in any situation the benefits come first, and the price is almost unimportant if we think we can save money to have the best option if we want.

I believe any person should ask the questions about social impact, including everything regarding the employees of that brand or their manufacturers, even when looking for a job, in any industry. A person doing this is showing social responsibility and self-respect, and this is good for one personal brand.

To check the cost-benefits we must consider first all the benefits we can imagine, for ourselves, the environment and to society. We analyse the benefits each brand can offer and then we analyse the prices of the brands offering more benefits to see if our budget is enough.

For example, consider you are looking for new shirts and the ones you tried have the following benefits and prices (I’ll include only a few benefits for this example). When I am analysing data, I’m more specific, but the example below is enough for you to understand the idea.

Brand	Fitting	Quality	Social responsibility	Colours	Services	Environmental responsibility	Rate
A	Perfect	Excellent	Unknown	Good	Excellent	Unknown	7
B	Perfect	Good	Unknown	Good	Good	Only sustainable products	6
C	Good	Good	Ok	Not fitted	Ok	Unknown	4
D	Horrible	Poor	Shame	Good	Ok	Unknown	2

The best choice would be the brand A in normal circumstances. I recommend to balance the rates in a way each benefit has the same importance than the others. It’s the most honest way to calculate the ratio.

Sometimes our budgets are not enough to buy the best choice. It’s an option to save some extra money to buy the best choice. I always consider this possibility when I’m shopping for myself. I prefer to postpone some acquisition to have the best choice than to buy a second option immediately. For clients I negotiate the best deals, as they usually buy various items at once and often I’m able to buy some products that alone couldn’t fit the budget.

When I started having opportunities in traditional media channels like TV channels and magazines to talk about style, many people used to hire me wanting to be more stylish. Currently, as people are gaining this sense of responsibility for having a world more honest, they’re asking me to find the best ratio cost-benefits for their new purchases in fashion. And I’m pleased to do the best I can with the information I have acquired in these more than 30 years in this industry, to offer something interesting for them, as I do for myself. Of course new brands appear e every day and I’m observing them too, and sometimes I can made mistakes in some aspects, but I consider important to consider the choices for my clients as important as mine, and I love to receive feedback on the results to improve my services more and more.

Do you consider some benefit I didn’t mention? Share it with me. Maybe I already consider it and forgot to write it down. Maybe I didn’t pay attention to that point and your comment can enrich my future analysis.

Visit the page “Services available” for professional advice on style.

Nycka, the nomad 

🇬🇧 Work-life balance

Work life balance is a way to manage our lives that allows us to have balance among various spheres of life, like family, friends, work and leisure. I separate in four because sometimes we can enjoy some time alone, to listen to our own inner voice, so, it’s not all time to be shared with others.

Sometimes we make a lot of effort to achieve a certain position in life or, more often, in career, and then instead of enjoying we work much more because we have new responsibilities and new challenges.

Society helps us to think we must struggle all the time. Should we? Don’t we deserve a pair of dinners with our beloved ones along the week? Don’t we deserve to enjoy the results of our efforts? Don’t we deserve some time for ourselves? I only can answer for myself. Yes, I do. And I deserve outstanding services.

Since I started exercising this balance life is funnier, there’s much more to enjoy and simpler than I used to imagine.

Do you exercise this or prefer to struggle being a workaholic?

Nycka, the nomad 

🇬🇧 Gifted hands: the Ben Carson Story

Another biography I watched during the weekend was “Gifted Hands: the Ben Carson Story”. I really appreciate biographies. This one was special because it shows something I treasure. Part of the transformation in Ben’s life was performed through the interest in art and culture. Books and museums were there to guide him to a completely different world. Like in the famous movie “To sir, with love”, where a teacher (Sidnei Poitier) guides a class of poor students to a new world including a visit to a museum. Ben’s mother also emphasise the importance to wear clothing with quality, another thing I value. Unfortunately, many brands nowadays are going in another direction, decreasing quality.

I won’t say racism doesn’t exist, but I’m sure the life of any person is much better if the individual chooses to enlarge ones universe through art, culture, travels and investing on quality.

Ben Carson is an example that reality can change.

Although I don’t like images of surgeries, this movie is tolerable regarding this kind of scene. Watch and enjoy the inspiration, then share your thoughts with me.

Nycka, the nomad 

🇬🇧 Mary Shelley

These days I watched “Mary Shelley”. I strongly recommend it. I never read some biography about her. I never read Frankenstein. But the movie is captivating. The colours used in clothes and decoration help to create an atmosphere. After to watch it I am more interested about the writer and her ideas.

Douglas Booth as the poet Shelley help us to feel like Mary, enchanted by his beauty (Booth is maybe the more handsome young man in cinema) and his intellect. Dakota Fanning looks charming and innocent. In a moment we discover she is or want to be different, when she shows she accepts open relationships as normal. Later we see she suffers with this choice that was her mother’s voice guiding her life, not her own voice.

For me, her father telling her to go to Scotland and find her own voice is the central point of this story. The cause of everything.

Movies like this are great to feel grateful for living in another scenario, where women have voice. We’re so accustomed to a life not very different from men in various points of view that we forget how much women struggled in the past. One century ago most women couldn’t vote in large part of the world.

I don’t tag myself as feminist. But I appreciate respect, as anyone else.

Based on the movie I questioned myself about relationships and how to manage them. I think to dialogue is the best thing. To keep updating the information. Because one day we can feel perfectly comfortable with a choice and then something happens that change our mind about that. Relationships are dynamic as ourselves. What do you think?

Nycka, the nomad 

🇬🇧 Bad experiences travelling

To travel by myself has some risks. When I plan my trips I have some standards in mind and sometimes to keep them I try some hotels from some group I had experienced before. But this is not a guarantee of quality, unfortunately. That’s why I am risking a bit more in small hotels sometimes. Curiously most of my bad experiences are linked to the experience in the hotel. All the rest usually is good enough.

For me, hotels must offer privacy (no thin walls, please!); a well trained team (once I was sleeping completely naked and someone tried to enter the room, maybe to clean it. Fortunately the door had a lock that I used before to sleep); comfort (a queen size bed and an excellent shower are the minimum. Something to keep a nice temperature inside the room is also necessary); security (a place to keep precious things like jewels and the laptop without the risk to be seen by the staff); and currently be pet friendly with nylon webs on the windows for my cat don’t escape, and a staff trained not to enter the room if signed the cat is inside (my cat hates humans), obviously offering the door signs for this. Free, quick and safe internet is obligatory! And TV with many different channels available are good although I usually don’t spend a lot of time in front of the TV (once I was in a hotel where the TV had options, but the only channel everyone could watch was the one played on the reception room. Don’t do this, please!). Activities inside the hotel are welcome. A great restaurant, swimming pool, a bar with excellent cocktails, are good things even in trips for businesses. More than that is highly recommended if the goal is leisure or if the city doesn’t have interesting attractions. Yes, the poorest the options in the city are, the better must be a hotel to create a nice experience for the traveler. 

My worst travel experiences wasn’t planned by me. They were simply horrible because they were much bellow my standards. All the trips paid by myself were done according to my budget, sometimes very limited. Lately, much more comfortable.

In one of these experiences I went to Porto Seguro, a marvellous brazilian beach, although the structure is poor for a famous destination, and I traveled with a group, including some family members (who have standards inferior to mine). The trip started in Montes Claros and we went by bus. The bus broke twice in the road before to cross the frontier between Minas Gerais and Bahia, and this was the beginning of a horrible experience. My will was to stop in the first city and take another bus back home, but I was an adolescent and my family didn’t allow that. When we arrived, we had a lot of people in the same room at the small hotel we stayed. Everybody from the group, but it was weird anyway. I acquainted with some girls in this group and we went to a show at night at the beach, but although I liked the main band, who played axé music (brazilian regional music from Bahia, usually played during the carnival in Salvador), the other band who opened the gig played.., U2 songs! Ok, I like U2, but both musical styles are too different. Outside the time on the beach during the day, when I could have some time alone, and the seafood, the trip was terrible.

Among the times I traveled with my mother, only one was good because I chose the hotel. She normally goes to the cheapest options and that time I found through the internet one that was much better and just a bit more expensive. She felt as if she was in a five stars hotel, and compared to those she used to stay it was really marvellous, although it was a very simple hotel.

But twice I had bad experiences planned by myself. In one of them, I went to Belo Horizonte for businesses. I chose a hotel close to the places I wanted to go, although my aunt invited me to stay with my cousin, her daughter, who is a medical doctor in the city and lives in a very beautiful house. The aunt would travel and the cousin lived too far from where I needed to go, so, I spent some money to stay in a hotel instead of spending with cabs. The hotel was too simple. There was one from the same group of the one I mentioned in the previous paragraph, where my mother felt as if a five stars hotel, close to that point and I don’t know why I didn’t discovered it before, because chances are it would be better. But although the one I unfortunately chose was weird, I survived, as I only needed a place to sleep and take a shower and spent all day outside solving business questions, and part of the night I enjoyed restaurants and malls in the neighbourhood.

The other bad experience was once I went to Sao Paulo to the Fashion Week, and went to a hotel close to the place. This is a case of hotel I experienced the same brand before and this time was disappointing. The room seemed an apartment. A nice hall with a TV, a place to work with the laptop, a comfortable couch. Then the bedroom with a big double bed, the wardrobe, and an enormous wall of transparent glass besides the bed! At night the room was charmingly lighted by the moon. There was no big buildings close to the hotel from that side, so I could have a nice view from my bed. But when I entered the bathroom, the first deception. It was too small. Specially the place under the shower. I am thin and I couldn’t move in that small space that had no more than 80cm from a side to the other. The other deception was when I noticed I could hear the other guests from my room! The walls were too thin!

Ah, twice I noticed the hotels were less clean than I deserved. Once I was with my mother, it was her choice and the worst nightmare I could have. The TV was dirty and the bathroom was even worse. Fortunately it was just to sleep that night and travel in the morning, but it was horrible anyway. The other I was in Sao Paulo, and I chose a charming hotel close to Oscar Freire street, but I noticed long hair under the pillows. The trip wasn’t bad, but I never returned to this hotel, nor to any other I had bad experiences.

I had some good experiences I didn’t return, but these cases for not having the opportunity. Two of them in Sao Paulo, because I go there often but I prefer hotels close to the places I want to go. So, these two are much better than the one I stay more often but they are not good considering the distance between them and my interests in the city.

Nycka, the nomad 

🇬🇧 Innovation and change

This blog talks about a lot of different things. I’m an innovator. My mind is always changing and not in a negative way. It changes evolving, leaving the old and uninteresting behind or embracing the new without giving up old passions. In my social media the same happens, you know. One day I write about style, the next I write about soccer, another day I write about trips or cats or anything else.

My main interests don’t change. My biggest passions don’t change. The way I deal with them can change. One day I can be satisfied with what the market offers and one month later my standards are higher. I’m okay with that.

I think the only passion I have and I talk about this much more in social media than here is football (soccer). I really love soccer. I mean, I’m not the kind of person who pays attention to the name of the positions. I appreciate that soccer played to win. When even defensive players take the responsibility to change a game in favour of their team. I am really boring with those defensive players who are able only to defend, and with coaches who, after their teams lose some advantage (or gaining a small advantage they feel comfortable) they decide to play with defensive strategies. No! To win like 1x0 is a very small victory, no matter how big is the advantage of the team in the championship!

I like games that are played to win with the best possible scores because I am competitive. I’m pleased to be recognised as an outstanding professional. I don’t take time trying to be part of official competitions in my field, as I use to choose my preferred team and pay attention only to its games, not taking care of what competitors are doing, and I like to observe my evolution comparing to myself, and sometimes I am delighted to see I am working better than others. Being an innovator, what others are doing is much less important than this fight against my limits. That’s how I appreciate professional sports, in special soccer, as the rules are easy for me to understand, also because I used to play it when I was younger.

Nycka, the nomad 

🇬🇧 The Miss Universe 2019

I manage a page about short haired women on Facebook and I’m always looking for inspiration. Yesterday I saw the new Miss Universe is a black woman from South Africa, called Zozibini Tunzi. A very beautiful woman. But I noticed something sad in her discourse.

She said she lives in a world where women like herself, with her skin colour and the texture of her hair aren’t considered beautiful. Here’s a video with this speech.

Am I living in Mars? Because in my world there are lots of black beautiful women like Lupita Nyong’o, Rihanna, Beyoncé and fabulous Naomi Campbell to mention a few.

When I was a child I didn’t see myself represented by beautiful celebrities. And I know this was because I didn’t see my own beauty. Could Miss Tunzi feel the same and this is the reason she said that? Because the only other explanation I see for that would be she lives in a place without internet, cinema, radio and television!!! A place focused in itself, not sharing news from the rest of the world. But I believe South Africa is not that primitive place.

She’s not even the first black woman to be a Miss Universe.

That’s why I think this speech was so sad. Because it talks a lot of her self image.

What about yours?

Nycka, the nomad

🇬🇧 Getting a cat used to life indoors

I just read a tweet asking what to do with a cat who lives partially outdoors to get used to a new life completely indoors. I have an experience with this and I’ll share it.

My Iduna was adopted when she was 8. She was living in a small house where she only entered to eat and sleep. She was free to go outdoors. I live in an apartment with nylon webs in all windows and the balcony to protect my cats. How do you call these protective webs in your country guys? I’m brazilian and I didn’t discover the name for these webs in english nor in italian. You can see the nylon web and Iduna on my Instagram.

Well, Iduna arrived in this new environment where she couldn’t go out for fun. And she spent a few days meowing in the balcony at night, very sad. But I gave her a lot of love and helped her to feel comfortable although she didn’t appreciate the two cats and a dog I had that time. In a few days she didn’t meow in the balcony anymore. Some time later she started to sleep in my lap while I was meditating. This was her favourite place. When she was in my lap any of her brothers could get close to us and she was extremely calm.

Although Iduna never became really friendly to her brothers I believe to have two cats or more is better as they’ll have another companion to have fun, not depending on the human staff to entertain them. As a plus, you can help to diminish the number of abandoned cats keeping them indoors and having as much as you can deal with and afford.

Cats have strong personalities but they adapt easily to a new life when they feel loved and cherished.

If you own or run a business related to the magazine's themes, read our "Media Kit" to learn how to promote your business with us.

Nycka, the Nomad 

🇬🇧 Thanksgiving

Yesterday was Thanksgiving day in some countries. In Brazil, where I still live, we don’t celebrate this day. Anyway it’s a good opportunity to stop and think in things to be grateful.

I have many abilities. My favourites are to write - that’s why my best statistics are here, on Twitter and Quora, not on Instagram - and to help people to become more beautiful and stylish in an individual way, through style consultancy and fashion design. I don’t see myself as a fashion blogger or beauty blogger because they share general tips and induce people to imitate them. This is not my way! I decided not to offer consultancy for businesses for a while, but I can change my mind if some interesting project appear. I’m not that bad doing this.

I have a dream. A big one. And last night I was sick because it seemed so distant and impossible because my standards are too high and sometimes a bit of pessimism makes me see only the fools who don’t value innovation and exclusivity. Then I slept to calm down and woke up thinking in Thanksgiving. Thinking in all my qualities and competences. Thinking my value always was on my strengths, not in what everybody is doing. Thinking that innovation moves the world and although people who appreciate what I do are not the majority, they exist. I woke up trusting a bit more that my dream is possible and somewhat I’ll find the support I need to make it as I want.

Nycka, the nomad

🇬🇧 Uniqueness

Each child is unique and, in theory, each adult should be unique too. But as many parents try to give limits to their children instead of teaching them how to fly and be authentic, many adults are like shadows, sad, grey, trying to be accepted by others and, for this, hiding qualities that they believe aren’t appropriate.

Caetano Veloso, a brazilian singer, wrote in his song “Gente” (which means people): “people is to shine not to die from hunger”. But the poet is not talking only about the lack of food. Culture nurtures us. To be recognised for being authentic nurtures us. So, spending all life trying to please others instead of discovering the beauty of who we really are is to die from hunger. Are you dying from hunger?

Some years ago I adopted a beautiful cat, like a british long hair, smoke coloured, and she was already 8 years old. Her previous tutor was moving to the apartment of someone from her family who didn’t like cats. I named the cat Iduna, like the goddess who had the apples that guarantee eternal youth to the gods. This cat only ate food with the taste of fish. One day, as the pet shop I went to didn’t have the fish option I bought food with the taste of salmon. Fish food here is usual for cheap food, not for super premium and in this pet shop there was only super premium food. I bought a pack with half salmon taste and half lamb taste. Salmon is a fish. But Iduna didn’t appreciate it. As I already had Thor (yes, I like to name my pets like mythical gods), he ate the salmon food without problems. Seeing Iduna wasn’t liking it, I tried the lamb food for her. And she loved it!

Two weeks ago I went to the pet shop to buy food for Thor. Iduna unfortunately died two years ago after to live with us for some years. I was buying super premium food with chicken taste for him. In that opportunity, as he is loosening a lot of hair, I tried salmon for long haired cats (he is short haired). He didn’t like it. I asked the brand if it was possible to change and they accepted. Then, I changed for the chicken that I knew he likes. Thor isn’t picky. I changed his food a lot of times and usually he eats anything. If he didn’t like that food I prefer to respect and offer one he likes. I already told you how the food in the house of my grandmother was horrible. I don’t try to force anyone, including my cat, to eat something that he doesn’t appreciate. We are unique. His way to ask respect was showing he didn’t like that food and he knows I respect him. Thor shines.

Each one of us is unique. And this uniqueness deserves to be treasured in every possible way. For myself I started treasuring it through clothes. And never abandoned this choice. You can do the same.

Nycka, the nomad

🇬🇧 Love and leadership

Since I was a kid I had fun working. I was too young to remember if I started forced by older people or through my personal initiative, but I prefer to believe it was the second, as along life, since that time, initiative is part of my attitude.

Every job I had I was pleased to do and when this pleasure disappeared I decided to change. The results are: I discovered the fashion industry in a deep level; I developed a lot of different talents, being able to perform many different activities; and I started a career in digital communications that is amazingly satisfactory.

I lived with my grandmother for many years. We had an employee who cooked and kept the house clean, something very common in brazilian wealthy families. And my grandmother used to complain every single day about the taste of the food to this employee. But I never saw her going to the kitchen to teach the maid how to cook. In fact the food was horrible, and this was one of the reasons I sometimes used to prepare desserts at home to have something tasty to eat. I’m very lucky and at the house of my other grandmother, where I went every weekend, in the farm, the food was marvellous. Simple, but delicious. 

Maybe I’m rationalising it, but anyway it was a long process that guided me to build confidence to do something unique. The very growth of luxury consumption in Brazil was an encouragement, although my profile is much more european. All the world is looking for something better. Even China, famous for counterfeit products, low quality and low salaries is gaining quality, although it didn’t extinguished the cheap and fake culture yet.

Maybe because I observed that grandmother with whom I lived I grew up with an attitude to learn how to do to be able to teach others to do. I’m aware the recruiting process is an important part of it, too. But in fact I wanted for a long while to have my own fashion brand and all the experience I acquired along my career is very useful to start this project. 

Being mine, it couldn’t be obvious, so, the blog will continue talking about many things and personal experiences and with doors open for brands linked to beauty, shoes, jewels and lifestyle committed to innovation and excellence to be part of this journey. And, in times of fake news, it keeps the mission to be the best fountain to drink information on my personal and professional activities. The ones I want to share, obviously. This blog is a kind of public diary where I share ideas, experiences and also information on my career. A place where I can share my stories almost as well as I can do through the clothes and accessories I create.

I care a lot about continuous improvement, and about to be faithful to my heart. I care a lot about offering my best in a way I receive the best too. Fashion enchants me because we can express the changes inside us through our personal style, through what we wear. We can be someone new and better every day choosing better clothing. Because the best we are, the more we know how to choose the clothes that express our personalities and we run away from buying cheap fast fashion goods. Exclusivity and innovation are the highest expressions of self-esteem. Are you ready?

Nycka, the nomad