Nycka, the Nomad ©

These are 10 things everyone must do to have an outstanding personal brand. Some of them you should be practicing since your childhood: Study to learn and to be the best, not to pass the exams. Value the qualities you have. Fix the weaknesses you have. Evolve in a daily basis. Find a professional mentor and pay the price to have the best advice because any inferior option will damage your personal brand. Never be satisfied with mediocrity. The more you invest in yourself the more you’ll improve. Respect the professional activities of others. Love your career choices. And remember the best student usually isn’t the most popular. To develop your personal brand, hire my style consultancy. Yes, style consultancy because for me personal image is a communication tool, and anyone wanting to develop a personal brand must develop the personal style too. Nycka, the nomad

Since I was 9 I was too shy even to answer the roll call at school. I had a problem with a ridiculous teacher and some negligence from my mother the previous year, then my family put me in a new school, and I showed strong signs of trauma. Two years later I was in another school, where I studied until I finish high school. The two first years in this school I barely left the classroom. I controlled some signs of trauma I had in the previous school, but the first year the man who came to close all doors during the interval told me everyday to leave, sometimes telling me that if some objects of my colleagues disappeared the fault would be mine. I always answered nothing would disappear. In fact, nothing disappeared. The second year I left and sit in front of the classroom. And started making friends, I don’t remember how. I decided I wanted to study advertising when I was 16 as my family put me in a course for models and I discovered my talent to write advertising content. But I wor...

I was listening to Nightwish’s song “The phantom of the opera” tonight and I was reminded of why I moved from the city I was born: to enrich my cultural level. To live experiences that city couldn’t offer me. Nightwish was among the first bands I discovered in this wonderful world called internet. It was through a “place” called Napster, that time, many years ago. In the city I was born my musical universe was limited to pop rock, axé, forró, pagode, sertanejo (brazilian country music), and the soundtrack of brazilian soap operas. I also discovered Iron Maiden, Metallica and Helloween (metal bands) and Soul Asylum still living there, but it wasn’t through mass media. Only my cousin knew these bands and nobody else in my network.  That same epoch that I discovered Nightwish (1999/2000) I used to enter chats to talk to other people. Usually I asked about what kind of music they used to listen to. It’s curious that all people who told me they were “eclectic” had a musical uni...

Not everyone are ready to listen to the truth, to the true opinion of other people. These individuals usually don’t speak their truth for habit or fear of being rejected. Along life I learned to be true to myself, at the same time I respect others, but respect is different from act as if I agreed with their attitudes. It’s more something like it happens in the book “The little Prince”, where the boy travel from one world to the other and when people are not open to pay attention to his individuality, he departs. In the story he only found one world where the person he met was in a big world, possibly a metaphor to an open mind.  Some people believe it’s rude to say a gift have some feature we don’t appreciate or any other thing that maybe will hurt the feelings of someone. I believe any person committed to self-improvement will receive well any kind of sincere feedback. Of course some people will suffer - those who consider themselves the victims of a world where nothing goes ...

My hair is naturally black, heavy and straight. During my adolescence it was a kind of curtain that helped me to hide my face. My family used to say I was ugly and as I saw nothing wrong with my body, the insecurities went all to my face. I imagined it was my face the ugly part of me. Once I was watching the news on TV and the journalist, Fatima Bernardes, had a short haircut I considered very charming. I said I’d love to have a haircut like that. My aunt, who was sat close to me, told me the only beautiful thing about me was my hair, and completed “if you cut your hair, what will remain?”. My hair was always the same thing. I couldn’t style it because it was as if it had a life not commanded by my will. Once, a friend of my mother invited us to her wedding. I spent all the afternoon with the hairstylist to style my long hair to the celebration. He used lots of powerful products to make my hair curly for the wedding. I left the place only to dress myself and go to the church. It...

I saw a girl telling her experience with Uber in Curitiba on Twitter. She said the driver wasn’t from the city and as she said “Good morning” he told her she wasn’t local. It was true. She was from Campinas. If it’s your first time here, both are brazilian cities and I live in Curitiba. Why did the driver know she wasn’t from Curitiba? In most of brazilian cities people use to say good morning and other little expressions of... humanity. It’s a habit, even when we couldn’t care less if the day will be good for the other. But in Curitiba people just don’t say this for pure habit. I want to believe they say when they care. Being so, I agree with this choice. To do something just for habit is so poor!  Don’t tell me I’m rude if I’m eating chocolate and don’t offer you a bit. I’m jealous of my chocolate (but if I have two maybe I offer you a bit if you deserve). I’m jealous of my cat and gadgets too. And I’m the best person you’ll ever know.  Since I moved to Curitiba I h...

Last monday I watched part of a TV program and one of the guys discussing about a movie told currently we live a reality where when we don’t like something we want to prohibit that thing. What he told reminded me that many children grow up with this. I mean, our parents (not all) educate us to live as if their limits were an absolute truth. They prohibit the children to do things these kids like, or they ignore them when the kids are doing something they believe it’s unworthy.  I grew up in a city which is not big. Most parents I knew, being part of an elite, wanted their sons and daughters to study traditional professions like medicine, dentistry and law. They didn’t encourage children to become artists, for example. Yes, when we grow up we can choose many things, but the impact of these moments when parents prohibit or ignore something important to us is enormous. I was watching the program through a Live on Facebook and I wrote a short comment about this point there. A woma...

Quando comecei a estudar inglês, sem contar as aulas básicas que tinha no colégio, eu tinha 20 anos. Naquele momento eu tinha a impressão que todo mundo com mais de quinze anos já falava inglês. Um colega meu, então com 18, era professor do idioma e me encorajou a estudar.  Hoje, lendo (e comentando) sobre o tema no Twitter alguém disse que nem todo mundo tem tempo, dinheiro ou oportunidade para estudar outros idiomas. A pessoa me bloqueou quando apontei um argumento contra cada um desses três pontos. Este texto é para quem quer vencer as desculpas e conseguir. Porque eu mesma me dava desculpas para não ter estudado inglês até os 20 anos e hoje vejo que as barreiras estavam em mim e que aquele meu colega me ajudou a rompe-las. Minha única desculpa era exatamente o dinheiro. Eu ganhava um salário mínimo trabalhando na loja de minhas tias. Não dava para pagar um curso de inglês. E minha avó, com quem eu morava, me dizia não pra coisas muito mais baratas (e que nem eram despesa...

Sometimes I find texts or questions about what age would a cat or dog be if it were human. Often I see people worried about how to look younger. This post is about these things linked to age. Age is one thing, maturity is another. Observing from this point of view, we start observing human beings. We can observe 100 different people with the same age and we’ll find different levels of maturity among them. We can observe 100 people with different ages and it wouldn’t be a surprise to find some young people more mature than many older ones.  So, about what would be the age of an animal if it were a human, I say it’s not a wise question. The chronological age of humans say nothing important at all. Considering this, how to look younger is a minor problem. People should consider how to be more mature, how to find themselves quickly and how to communicate the best of themselves through their appearances. Because when we discover our own beauty, a beauty much more valuable than an...