🇬🇧 Relocation and abandonment

A person on a social media asked me how much money I should be paid to leave my family and friends to work abroad. Anyone who thinks like this has no idea what life is like for a citizen of the world. One has no idea what it means to abandon. Maybe one has no idea what it means to be human. This is a text to share with those who feel abandoned when comment that you are thinking of moving to another city or country.

To abandon is to turn off the emotional connection, not to care about the other person's well-being. To abandon is not necessarily related to physical distance. A parent can abandon a child by neglecting what is important to the child, ignoring her feelings, being selfish. Even being physically present, there is an emotional and sometimes material abandonment.

When we go to live in another city or country, even if far away, we don't necessarily have to abandon family and friends. We can do this if we realise that these people don't deserve our affection and don't have real affection for us. I first moved in 1998. I communicated with family and friends by phone (and it wasn't even a cellphone) and letters because I didn't start using computers until 1999 and these people only started using the internet much later. Virtually everyone has the internet nowadays, or at least the context I lived in in 1998 is quite unlikely for a reader of this site today. It is much easier to communicate with people. So this idea of ​​abandonment is absurd.

Furthermore, humans are not trees. Trees can be transplanted and moved to another place, but for human beings this movement is natural, it can arise from the initiative of each one. Your friends and family can come and see you if you want and you can visit them too.

Over the past 24 years, I've made many new friends, lost a few, and found friends on the Internet that I haven't seen in years. I changed behaviours because I was maturing and realising things that I didn't realise before. I made choices I wouldn't have made before I moved. I practice meditation aimed at self-knowledge and connection with who I am. Moving to another city or country can bring many changes in our lives. If we change by our belief, by our will, it might be the best thing you do for yourself. I don't know if moving for money, as the question I was asked suggested, has the same effect because I have seen many people who move for it and do not adapt.

Are you ready to make the world your home?

This text, like all others on this site, is protected by copyright. All rights are reserved to the author.

If you manage a company related to the topics covered in this website, read our media kit and advertise your products and services in our communication channels.

Nycka, the Nomad